Negative emotions happen. You can't avoid them, pretend they are not there, or gloss over them. You have to face emotions with logic. It takes practice to find what to be grateful for when you are upset, but if you want a joy filled life you have to learn.
To gain control over your negative emotions, you have to find the source that feeds them. There are temporary sources of release, but they are temporary. You want to starve the source, so that your negativity does not control you.
To have complete control over your emotions you find what you dwell on. Is it negative or positive? Does it bring you closer to God or further away? Does it make your life work or does it deplete your life? Take note on what you swell on and if it is not leading you to the life you want, then you need to change it.
You do not want to be a passenger to your emotions or you will never be on solid ground. They will whip you around like a dingy in a storm in the middle of the ocean. This is your life. Do not be passive. The secret is to be prepared for anything. If you focus on God and His promises, then you don't have to be swept away in the moment.
Do not use amplifying words like always, never, no one, and every.. or it will enhance your extreme feelings. They distort reality toward a downward spiral. Do not allow your feelings to dictate what the truth really is. If you allow your negative feelings to have control, they will blind you from the truth. Negative feelings are often distorted, so you will never find the complete truth there.
Do not presume to know what other people are thinking. Your physical response to these kind of thoughts lead to responses from other people and make things worse for you not better. Exaggeration should be avoided. It will turn something small or simple into something bigger than it ever should have been. It only leads to unnecessary drama.
Do not be an identifier. An identifier turns something unrelated into having personal meaning. They take things personally even if it had nothing to do with them. It makes them the victim when there was no victim. It is good to ask questions before you allow your feelings to take over.
Forecasters see the negative future and worst case scenarios before anything even gets started. The cynic will find something wrong in any situation. They focus on the only negative and allow it to highlight over all the good. Their mental radar is set to find only the bad to justify their view point. They make themselves miserable along with those around them.
The blamer points their finger at someone else over taking personal responsibility. This is immobilizing and steals your joy because it is an emotional dirty bomb. Then there is the justifier who are entitled. Entitlement leads to discontentment and emotional outburst. They lose sight of joy because they advocate for themselves over God.
Just because you are not happy does not mean that you have been done wrong. Be prepared for negative influences, thoughts, and emotions. You can get a hold of them before they take control. Look at your thought process and focus. Turn them over to God and focus on His truth and His promises.
Deuteronomy 16:13-15, 1 Samuel 18:6-9, Nehemiah 8:10-17, Philippians 1:3-26, 4:1-5, & 2 Timothy 1:3-4
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