Boundaries are a guideline on how to live your life in peace. They are not rigid rules with no flexibility. They change adapt as you grow and change in life. They are also bend sometimes according to situations. An example is the "Good Samaritan" story. It was someone considered unclean that helped the hurt Jew. Normally the Samaritan would never be allowed to touch the Jew, but to do the right thing the boundary had to be crossed.
Boundaries are flexible, but there are times you may need to make them rigid to protect yourself and mental health. If someone is manipulating you or taking advantage, then you need to be rigid with your boundaries. It is better to be rigid than to have resentment and anger in your heart. Your feelings are indicators of when a boundary is being crossed or motivate you to step out of your comfort sone to do good. You should walk in faith, not feelings, but do not underestimate the value of feelings either.
Your attitude can influence how you handle your boundaries. Your attitude is influenced by stance on a subject, God, other people, personal life, work life, and relationships. Your beliefs directly affect your attitude. Your beliefs are what you believe is true. That is why you need to work out your faith. You can't set clear boundaries if you are not clear on your stance in certain areas.
Your behavior has consequences whether good or bad. Your behavior may cause someone to set boundaries with you. If they do, then will you own up to your part or will you ignore their boundaries. You have to take personal responsibility for how you act and the words that come out of your mouth.
Proverbs 13:18-24, 15:8-11, Matthew 9:35-38, 15:31-32, Luke 10:30-37, 15:11-32, Galatians 6:7-10
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