God's design for boundaries create peace, unity, and a functioning society. If people do not do it God's way, then they find themselves lost, confused, and hurt. God's principles lead to understanding how to govern relationships and personal well-being. Ignorance is a prison of a person's own making, but you can break from that prison whenever you want.
The first law of boundaries is "sowing and reaping". This boundary is what you put into life, you will get out of life. You will not always get what you deserve. There are people in your life that will interrupt your consequences, but it can be foolish. Boundaries forces a person to take personal responsibility for their actions. God sent Jesus to step in and intervene, so you do not have to die in your sin. It is a part of salvation. You have to accept that you deserve death, but also believe and follow Jesus to escape what you deserve.
The second law is taking responsibility. Taking responsibility can be interpreted in a few ways: arrogance, self-denial, selfish or self-centered, or guilt ridden. This law is about loving other people enough to recognize where they begin and end. You take responsibility for your words, attitude, actions, and heart condition. There are only problems when responsibility is confused. You are commanded to love everyone. That does not mean everyone will love you. You can't expect non Christians to act the way Christians are called to act.
Law three is power. Who do you give power over your life to? What do you do with the power that God has given you in life? All power comes from God. If you give your life over to Him, then He gives you the power of faith and effort. If you do not, then you give power to Satan: addiction, evil, money, and more. You need wisdom to know how to use this law in boundaries.
Law four is respect. Do not focus on people respecting your boundaries. That leads to fear and loss of self-control. Instead focus on how to respect others. Even if you do not understand a boundary, respect the person enough to honor it without judging. You will earn the respect of other people and in return they should respect your boundaries. Respecting others leads to self-respect too. It frees you to love others the way God loves them.
The fifth law is motivation. Satan drives you to hate, fear, and anger. Godly boundaries is motivated by love. It results in humility, gratitude, peace driven attitude. Exam your motives in life. If they are fear driven, then you need to turn to prayer and make some changes in your life.
The sixth law is evaluation. It is knowing the difference between hurting and harming someone. Sometimes you may have to hurt someone to free them, help them heal, or bring truth into their life. It is short term and will bring forth wisdom if nothing else. Harming someone is telling all truth with no filter or caring what the outcome will be. Telling the truth without love can harm someone to the point that they do not easily recover. How you tell the truth matter.
Law seven is being proactive. Everything you do in life causes an equal and opposite reaction. Your actions should bring freedom. Anger reveals immaturity and breaks relationships. Proactive people act out of love revealing the hate of other people without ever needing to say a word. Be known for what you love, not what you hate.
Law eight is envy. You need boundaries with yourself to not have envy. These boundaries are over your emotions. Look at how blessed you are with what you have. If your really needed it, then God would give it to you. Everyone's time table and life values are different. Do not limit yourself by wishing you had what other people have. It just causes you to focus on what you do not have and it is dangerous for your emotional health.
The ninth law is activity. This is having initiative with your boundaries. Good and healthy boundaries propels your life into action. It will keep you from becoming complacent. You lose in life when you are passive and inactive. Being active seeks resolution, peace, and is persistent in goals.
The last law of boundaries is exposure. Your boundaries define your relationships with other people by giving you the confidence of knowing who you are. It is obvious to people where you stand, your morals, and your relationship with God. You are able to communicate what you need in the relationships in confidence. You just have to be honest with God and yourself.
Proverbs 9:7-9, 19:19, 23:13-14, Matthew 7:1-14, John 15:9-17, Romans 7:4-6, Galatians 5:13-15, 6:7-10, Ephesians 4:25-27, Philippians 2:12-13, James 4:1-3, 1 John 1:8-10
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