Foundation of Boundaries

 

        Everyone has a deep desire for connection on an emotional and spiritual level.  What some people don't know is that you can find that with God for eternity.  From there the Holy Spirit can lead you to people that will give that to you in life.  He wants you to have loving and meaningful relationships.  When He provides it, you need to set boundaries to be able to maintain the committed connection.

    God created people to need relationships, so that means boundaries are the foundation to healthy relationships.  The attachment to God is the foundation of your soul.  Your relationship with Jesus is what makes your foundation unbreakable.  If your boundaries are faulty or not enforced, then your relational foundation can crack and will not grow.  

    A broken foundation leads to conflict.  It allows insecurity, uncertainty, and other negative feelings into your heart.  That will lead to actions that will cause the relationship to break.  Sometimes breaks can be fixed and the foundation becomes stronger, but normally it means you lose a relationship or you remain a prisoner in an unhealthy relationship.

    Relationship are meant to give you security in life.  They should give you a sense of belonging, safety, and love.  They should keep you from feeling isolated.  Healthy relationships are unity with other people, but still able to keep your personal identity that comes from God at your creation.  You need to know who you are and who you are not.  You can be united in relationships and still hold your own values, thoughts, opinions, and feelings.  

    There is a struggle between unity and personal identity because unity is merging, but individualism is independence.  It starts with your relationship with God.  He created you to be your own person, but choosing to submit to Him.  You have free will, but you should never seek your independence from Him.  He will show you how you can be your own person while submitting Him by having the Holy Spirit living in your soul.  Learning that lesson from Him is vital to have a strong foundation of boundaries with other people, especially marriage.

Luke 2:41-52, Ephesians 3:14-19, Colossians 2:6-7, & 1 John 4:13-17