Courtship is the period of time when a couple develops their romantic relationship with marriage intended. Courtship is not casual dating. The couple dresses up and puts on their best behavior because they don't want their intended to see any of their faults. You want to be perfect in the eyes of the one you love. It is not something that can last, but it is an important step in the relationship. It is the wholesome flirty stage.
When you are courting you want to try to know everything about the other person. You talk over nothing and make plans for the future. It is exciting but also involves the friends and maybe family. The day comes where you realize you can't talk to your intended or maybe spouse at this time in the same way you can your friends of the same sex. Men and women just view things differently. We process things differently. That is why we need community. Community also helps keep the kissing stage of courtship from going too far.
Love is powerful. It is as strong as death. Real love will not easily give up on a relationship, but keeping a good reputation definitely helps. It is wise to find a partner to court that you have things in common with. It will make the process a lot easier. That does not mean that they have to be the same ethnicity, age, social status, or even economic. It means the same values in life. This love will thrive even in hardship. It will not wither away. The point of courtship is to develop this kind of love.
Father it is your responsibility to take your daughters out on dates to teach them what to expect and the general respect that they need to demand from a guy that they may date. They are to teach their sons the real definition of being a man and how that applies to treating women. Mothers it is your responsibility to teach your sons how to show the girl that they may date respect. Maybe mother son dates would be good too. They are to teach their daughters propriety and how to behave.
Courtship is a long lost artform and it needs to revived. We can avoid a lot of heart ache if we receive the love that God has for us. He will show us what we need in a relationship. No one needs to settle in life. It is not fair to you or your spouse. It does not display the love that God has for you.
Song of Songs 8
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