Marriage is one of the most beautiful things in life, but it is also the most complicated relationship you will have. Boundaries need to be clear to avoid confusion going into marriage. They will grow and evolve as the marriage grows and changes. The point of of boundaries is to allow you to be you while in a relationship. When you get married the two become one. That means you have to agree on the boundaries and have them work for both of you.
Marriage is meant to mirror your relationship with God. You have duties. Your spouse has duties. Then God has His part in the marriage. When working together there is harmony in the marriage. When you or your spouse start doing things your own way, then problems will follow. The boundaries become confusing when you want to be your own individual person versus the united couple you vowed to be.
Feelings are individual and need boundaries. You can't live on feels. You need to live by faith. Feelings will cause problems in the marriage if you do not learn communication skills. You also have to allow yourself to be vulnerable. It is not easy to talk about intimate feelings.
You need boundaries on desires. You have to take responsibility for your desires and make them clear to your partner. Your partner is not a mind reader. They can't be what you need if you do not communicate it.
Marriage requires sacrifice. You give into the marriage what you have. If you do not give anything into the marriage, then your spouse will resent you eventually. You need self-control to place limits on yourself. It is also your responsibility to set boundaries on what you can give and what you need to keep for yourself. Placing it on your spouse is unfair and will cause resentment. Show love and respect by setting healthy boundaries with each other that will allow you to grow.
Proverbs 5:7-14, 2 Corinthians 6:11-13, 9:6-10, Ephesians 5:21-33, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, Hebrews 13:4, & James 4:1-10
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