Lovers

 

    A lover is a sexual partner that according to God's standards fall into the union of marriage.  In the worlds it is a sexual partner that is not your spouse.  God's definition is not a bad or scandalous.  It is a healthy marriage that enjoys sex with each in a way that will not become boring over the years.

    A lover looks into your eyes with a beautiful love.  It is a love of commitment, yearning, and appreciation.  It is choosing to look at the good qualities of your lover instead of knit picking at all the small annoying things.  Focusing on the negative will destroy what you fell in love with quickly.  Before you go there remember all your flaws.  You are not perfect either.  Then, pray that the lover over looks those.

    Look at each other with appreciation and longing.  Then one of you initiates the arousal or awakening.  What happens during is between you and no one else.  This is what is poetic, artistic, beautifully private about marriage.  Basically it is enjoying each other's bodies in every aspect: scent, appearance, the skin, and kissing.  The consummation should be a nice as the beginning.   In a way is holy because God created man and woman to enjoy themselves and use this a form of praise.

    In marriage you are not a lone.  You are unified against the world.  It is the thing that you fight for in life.  Instead of fighting over things that really don't matter, talk through things and create healthy boundaries that work for your marriage.  True love is rare.  Once you find it, it is something you should cherish and keep safe.  It is not easily lost.

    Enjoy each other.  Don't let anyone get in your head and make you feel bad or guilty for your marriage.  The time of restraint is over.  You are no longer dating, you are solidifying the union every day (union is not just sexual).  God is happy when we take pleasure our marriage.  Let go and allow yourself to loose your heart to your spouse.  Don't hold back.  Be vulnerable and it can open up a new world for you to feel completely safe in your lovers arms.  

Song of Songs 4